Trying to brave the storm of teen hormones and the sea of boys is not a very easy task. We are, at best, vulnerable beings who long for comfort, warmth and affection. All these things, that we so desperately crave, though there is nothing in itself wrong with it, if directed in the wrong way, it can be very destructive.
I personally live in a society of extremes. There are those who believe that young girls and boys should not interact at all. They treat attraction and love as if it is something unnatural, and forget that we are forced to mix with the opposite sex on a daily basis. They have thus failed to teach us the proper etiquette when it comes to boys.
Then are those who give young people free reign. They openly condone dating and 'having fun', and forget that these can invariably lead to life altering and indeed very haram situations. They expect young people to automatically understand where to draw the line and this, in my opinion, is unrealistic.
Yes girls and boys mix with each other every day. Yes mixing inevitably leads to attraction. This is all normal. This cannot be stopped. What we do with our own selves, that is the only thing we can control.
So my dear sisters let me say this to you now.
Don't forget Allah...
In all those times when your feelings and your attractions seem to get the better of you, please try not to forget that there is an All-Seeing Creator who is aware of all you do.
In all those times when your hormones seem to get the better of you, please don't forget that this passing phase will not last, but that the bad deeds that are being recorded in your book will remain forever.
You are the only one who can control how you behave. So behave in a manner that will never cause regret because regrets often come too late.
Don't ever give in to what you know in your heart to be wrong simply because you think you've found 'the one'. The 'one' my dear sister, is only the 'one' you were meant to marry. And then everything can be done in a halal manner.
You will only end up with 'the one' that you were meant to end up with and no amount of sin will ever change that. So be strong and remain steadfast in your faith, and look forward to all that Allah has in store for you.
You are precious, your modesty is precious, your innocence is precious and your imaan is precious.
Don't ever forget that.